I sometimes didn't know where my father was for months at a time
The author shares a personal account of growing up with an addicted father who was frequently absent and eventually moved to the Philippines. The relationship remained distant until the father passed away from a stroke just before they were set to reunite, leaving the author to navigate a difficult healing process.
The author reflects on growing up with a father who struggled with drug addiction, often disappearing for months at a time. The father frequently changed contact information and addresses, making him difficult to reach. A significant moment occurred when the father borrowed the author's professional camera, which was never returned, likely sold to fund his substance use. Years of estrangement followed, with the father eventually moving to the Philippines.
Upon learning his father had moved abroad, the author planned to visit him during a trip to the Philippines around New Year's. Tragically, the father suffered a stroke and passed away just one day before their scheduled reunion. This lack of closure had a profound impact on the author, leading to a long period of grief and the loss of passion for creative work. Recently, the author has begun prioritizing personal well-being and is slowly finding joy in life again after years of struggling with the complex legacy of his father's addiction.
Based on reporting by parool. Translated and condensed by LocalHeadlines.
